Every now and then people tend to get angry. In the state of anger, people feel the blood rushing into their vains and find themselves acting irrationally then they regret it later. It's obvious that anger is not lightly taken. By understanding how anger works you will be able to control it instead of making it control you.
Anger is a healthy mechanism launched by your subconscious mind with the aim of helping you in regaining control or in defending your rights. To deal with anger you must first understand the nature of the emotion you are dealing with. After all, you can’t fight an invisible enemy. The following examples will help you understand exactly what anger is and what triggers it. Understanding its triggers is the first step in anger management.
What makes you Angry?
You can get angry when:
Someone takes your turn while you're waiting in a queue.
You have alot of work to do on your computer. When it starts to slow down, you will become stressed then angry.
When you're in a team and you find a team member neglecting his work and leaving the burden to the rest of the group.
When you feel afraid! Yes, anger could be a consequence of fear. An easy example, when someone nearly crashes into your car, you get mad and shout at him. Why did you get mad? Because you were afraid that your car would get smashed. So in this case your anger was a result of being afraid.
When someone makes fun of you.
When you get scolded by your superior at work.
When your boss gives you load of work to do.
In all of the previous examples we can see that anger was triggered to preserve your rights (like when someone took your turn), when things didn’t go as you expected (like the computer being slow) or as a result of fear (in case of someone was about to smash your car).
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